A key insight of humanism is that we do not have to make more or less of our human experiences than what they are. When we feel pain, it is neither an illusion nor a sign from the heavens. It is not God, and it is not the Devil. It is pain, sadness, and longing. Running away from it, pretending it does not exist, will do us no good. But often an almost magical thing happens when we stop to acknowledge our pain: we are more easily able to let go of it and focus on simple pleasures.